I used to think that way, feeling embarrassed when someone pointed out I had emotions.
I realized over time it was my dad who taught me to feel that shame, and the friend group I was with. Slowly I started to realize that it wouldn’t matter, and let myself be me a bit more.
Life definitely got easier. When they talk about toxic masculinity, that’s it. Forcing you to hide who you are because you think it isn’t manly or something. It’s wrong though. I met my wife and she liked me because I was in touch with my emotions. It’s become a part of me. Hell I finally realized I love Taylor Swift because I emotionally connect with her songs where before I could never let myself like her music.
Society pushes all of these weird rules on us, and man does life get easier when you just stop caring about them
They asked if you were a “softie” not a “swiftie!”
(I’ll show myself out…)
Man you were definitely lucky to meet ur wife, huh. Idk, it just has been very difficult to find ppl like these irl for me. And for those who were like this, they just treated me like I was dumb or something. You know, more “childlike” or whatever.
I have this but not about being a softie, but about speaking too loud. I know I do it, I know it’s bad, I’m thankful when someone points it out so I can adjust, but I’m still mega pissed off for a moment when someone does.
I would only be upset at the vile psychopath who is complaining about me having a sense of compassion and empathy.
What does “softie” mean in this context?
If someone says I’m not afraid to be vulnerable or that I’m in touch with my emotions? Nah
But if someone called me a pussy or insinuated it’s not masculine to have a healthy relationship with your emotions? That definitely would bother me.
But if someone called me a pussy or insinuated it’s not masculine to have a healthy relationship with your emotions? That definitely would bother me.
Yea, I was referring more to this part. Like sure, other ppl’s tolerance to hurtful stuff that u say might be high, but mine isn’t. When I confront u with this, u just dismiss it by hand waving the issue like “oh you’re too soft n delicate either ways”. Like NO. I mean I may be “soft n delicate”, but could you just not be mean?
I’ll be honest, I can barely understand what you’re saying here. Your writing style hurts my brain.
I don’t consider being a softie a bad thing, so I don’t care.
Haha now that’s the spirit!
its a bit hokey but you should watch the anime shy. its free on crunchy roll atm. shes a softie :)
