The only right answer is:
“I mean she’s not my top pick of your friends for a threesome, but if you can’t talk Ashley into it then yeah I guess she’s fine.”
“Why do you ask? You thinking about banging her?”
No no no no no no 😬😬😬
“Why do you ask? You thinking about boinking her?”
Aaah, much better 😊.
Appropriate response 10/10.
I’d say not to waste your time on girls who play these kinds of games. That’s a weird question to ask your S.O. no matter how you swing it.
I ask my SOs that kind of question. We’re bi polyamorous sluts.
Bit of a difference when you’re in some sort of open relationship. I was more thinking maybe closeted cuckquean but even then it’d be a stupid thing to do.
Why does everyone act like closed relationships are normal and have to make an exception for poly relationships? That’s so weird.
Statistics, original meaning of a romantic relationship?
It’s been called open marriage or open relationship for a reason. Because the default assumption was it’s not. There’s even that weird term “cheating”.
Everyone acts like monogamous relationships are normal because they are. And polyamorous relationships are an exception. You’ll have to deal with it.
They shouldn’t. Lots of people don’t even know polyamoury is an option, and they’re groomed from early childhood to understand relationships as exclusive and to get jealous. That’s a toxic culture. It’s okay to have complicated and difficult feelings, that’s part of being human, but it’s not okay to pressure children into sharing those feelings as they get older.
Because that’s the social and societal norm. Regardless of how progressive a lot of the issues have been/are.
Because they are? The absolute majority of all relationships are monogamous. How is that even a question? lol Do you go about this when trying to date too? Do you just not say that you want to fuck around with other people, expecting them to just accept it anyway? Because that’s called cheating. If you want to have a non monogamous relationship, then you have to make that clear right from the start, discussing all boundaries that come with it to which both / all partners can agree upon. Anything else, again, makes you a cheater.
What the everliving fuck. Of course I ask all my partners to give consent before I add someone new to my polycule. Every single time. Do you add new people to your polycule without consulting your partners just because they’re polyamorous? That’s cheating.
I don’t have to “tell” my partners I’m poly, because I don’t cheat. If you think you can just tell your partners you’re poly and then date whoever you want, you’re wrong and that’s a dangerous belief. Please never tell anyone else that polyamoury works like that, because it doesn’t. I’ve had to educate far too many partners who thought like you and would have cheated on me if I hadn’t been careful to establish explicit boundaries.
Congrats on completely avoiding the point I was making. You’re outright telling someone you’re poly, because you know the expectation is that you’re not, because it isn’t the norm.
No, I’ve actually only ever had two partners who were monoamorous by default. The first two. Everyone afterwards immediately knew I was poly without having to be told. And was poly too. I mean I would have asked them to consent to being metamours with all my existing partners anyway so definitely no cheating since you brought that weird point up. But if you’re now deciding the point is people’s assumptions, everyone I know assumes people are poly. If someone in my circles is monoam they actually have it listed in their bio so everyone knows not to flirt with them.
Sounds like I just have gayer friends than you do and you’re assuming everyone is like your boring friends.
Do you even have any otherkin friends?
Decent point, but I also think it’s good to explicitly discuss monogamy as well. Even if you don’t use that word but only say “are we in a relationship”, it’s good to define the moment when the exclusivity begins.
For example I’ve had one date with a woman, and she was busy on my second attempt. I’d love to see her again but I’m unsure whether I will. Would I be a cheater if I went on a date with another woman right now?
In my unfortunate experience, chicks who are jealous and play these games will also cheat on you.
“Thank GOD, I was hoping I wasn’t the only one who noticed! I’ve been dying over here trying not to say anything.”
“Yeah! Are you gonna ask her out or nah?”
Look at GF for a few seconds Then say ‘Babe, we need to talk’
Yeah she’s hot but not as dirty in bed as you
Good come back 👍. She might even try hader!
“Yeah girl you’re so hot you could eat bread and poop toast”
Is another classic.
Wow did I parse that wrong at first. 😳
“She’s beautiful but not my type, because she’s not you”
“Not as hot as you, obviously.”
Her friend is Megan Fox…
That’s when you throw in “I mean I can see why you’d think so if you like that sort of thing”.
My friend, have you seen Megan Fox lately?
It might be time to update your reference for hotness
Yeah 😬… I’d say I have to… thanks for the update.
Careful how you deliver that “obviously.”
I can never keep track of all of her friend’s names anyway, so I wouldn’t know who she was talking about.
“She hasn’t mentioned anything. Hey Ashley is the temperature in here ok for you?”
