southsamurai

I’m glad you type in the list lol. No way I’m clicking on a buzzfeed link

I’m with you, though I’d say better than passable, especially for the time.

Word.

Reynolds did a solid job as Hal, and nobody did a bad acting job imo.

It was the script that had issues, and there were some iffy editing choices that amplified those (assuming there was truth to the rumors about the editing choices).

And the cgi was mid tier at best.

But overall, I actually love the movie. Flaws and all it was fun

Technically, my family lives with me, but I lived with family before I bought the house from my dad.

It started as a need, turned into a mutually beneficial state of being, the he fucked up, and I bought the place since we would have lost it otherwise.

Seriously, as long as everyone involved is on board with household agreements, there’s no abuse of power, and there’s open lines of communication, it’s no different than having roommates, or renting to a boarder, or having guests.

Not every family can do it, and not every family should, but it can be amazing.

Now, with that said, no way in hell would I live with my mom again lol. And if it was my sister, we’d have to expand the place so we didn’t share a kitchen (the little twat wrecks shit).

But, as long as she didn’t start her shit, my mom could live here with us. I love her, but that woman is a pain in the ass to live with when she thinks she’s owed something for being the mom. It’s a whole thing. She and my sister live together, and it’s the same thing there, she just assumes way too much.

But, yeah, even that’s something that could be negotiated around in a pinch.

Best thing I ever did, moving back home while looking for a new main job and living space. Let me take my time doing the job hunt instead of having to take the first, which meant I ended up with a much better job for the time. By the time I had a new place lined up, my dad kept telling me not to take this one or that one for reasons. Eventually, I said I’d just stay here, and he smiled.

That may not seem like much, but it is from my dad. It meant that’s what he really wanted, but didn’t think he was supposed to say lol.

Every day. I wake up, my wife and kid are in my life.

What could be better?

That whole 2 guns at once part is misleading.

All it takes is years of practice combined with the willingness to lose accuracy per shot, or only doing it at close distances. It isn’t some superhuman feat that the average person can’t learn.

It just isn’t useful compared to a single handgun in any practical situation. It’s a show trick only, you’d never compete with it, and you’d definitely not want to try it in any kind of real world setting. The time you spent learning to do it would be better spent practicing any other handgun drills.

I think there’s a translation barrier, maybe.

When I said “it doesn’t matter”, I meant that none of the arguments about it matter in a real way. I then explained why I don’t think it matters.

English is a pain in the ass language sometimes.

In this instance, I think perhaps “the subject is moot”, or “the debate is without relevance beyond conversation for the sake of conversation.” would have been better.

For most Americans, you’ll find that “it doesn’t matter” isn’t the same as “I don’t care”, unless they say “it doesn’t matter to me”. Depends on where they grew up, or where they’ve lived long enough to change their use of casual english, though.

Secondary to that, what I wrote was a fairly small bit. Less than most op-ed pieces in newspapers, less than most other articles too. I get that the internet, and texting, have driven down our collective patience with longer writing, but still. If it can fit on the screen of a tablet, with the paragraph breaks included, it really isn’t that long.

Really?

How many countries have “of America” in their names?

When you actually think about it, it isn’t offensive. Matter of fact, if you’ve been around the internet long enough, you could remember when it first started, and it wasn’t people in the Americas doing the complaining.

Are Mexicans being offended when we get called the US? It’s in the same place in the name for their country, the United States of Mexico. Or would they prefer being called the EU? Oh, that’s right, if they use the words in Spanish, they’re screwed because europe got there first.

Come the think of it, what do Mexicans call the US? The ones I know call it “el Norte”, which is offensive to Canadians by the same way of thinking, since the USA isn’t the only country in the north of north america.

The whole thing is stupid. The only time being “american” and not talking about the US matters is if you’re referring to everyone in South and/or Central America as a group. Which isn’t exactly a common thing. And, guess what, you’d still have to apply the term North Americans to people from the USA if you wanted to lump them in with Canada and Mexico.

Brazilians aren’t called Americans because their country is Brazil, and that’s a much bigger component of their national “vibe” than being south American. Hell, you talk to some Brazilians, and they’ll argue that their entire culture is separate from the rest of South America. And, btw, they’re called Brazilians, not FRians, despite being the federative republic of Brazil in English, (which is republica federativa in Portuguese, which is missing some accent marks, but there’s a limit to typing on screen and hunting down the right ones when you’re dyslexic).

People from the US have been called Americans by other people in the Americas way longer than this whiny trend has existed. Mind you, us citizens aren’t always called Americans, there’s other terms used here and there in both Spanish and Portuguese speakers for sure, and likely in indigenous languages. So, calling us citizens “Americans” is really only an English thing, there’s variants in other languages that are the dominant term in that languages, even compared to other terms.

Hell, there’s even an argument to be made that the U.S. got the name first, so anyone else can bugger off, but I’ve always found that argument both specious and rude.

Besides, let’s be real here, when it comes down to it, it doesn’t matter. You might get some people to switch over, but when every news source in the world has to get on board, and every person around the world is expected to care, it isn’t going to change, even in English.

The whole argument is a nothing burger anyway. It’s dumb. And there’s a thousand things ahead of it on the list of things to change.

Pretty good, still sassy.

Our pet hen comes inside in the evening and night. Yeah, a pet chicken in the house, I would have thought it crazy this time last year.

She’s a sassy girl by default, but takes spates of being extra sassy. She’s a little French girl, a marans (that’s the breed), so she’s just plain extra.

Anyway, last night she comes in, in rare form. Just all up in everyone’s business, frisking and chattering all over the place. Just spunky.

As usual, after she makes sure everyone knows she’s there, and the queen of the roost, she hops up on my leg, then over to the arm of the couch, where she’ll typically stay until bedtime, bawking and clucking at the world.

But boy, that was not the case. I would move to get a sip of water out of my cup, and she’d peck at me. I’d pick her up and set her on the floor. She’d stomp around the living room a few times, scolding me for daring to befoul her perfection with my greasy ape paws. And then she’d hop back up. And then peck at me the next time I moved. Back to the floor, where she stomps around like a jilted t-rex, screaming her rage to the winds.

This repeats a few times, and I start blocking her from hopping up.

This, of course, is met with remonstrations of the highest order. BRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAK! The mighty thunder bird (that’s all of six or seven pounds) was not happy.

However, I was not quailed (nor chickened out. Funny how that works, ain’t it?). I refused to play.

Until she changed tactics. She practically batted her eyes at me. Which, in chicken terms is bobbing the head from side to side while preening and prancing, followed up by a sweet trill and little hops.

Of course, this melted my heart, and I risked peckage and helped her up. She then settles down next to me, with her fuzzy little butt right on my arm, and falls asleep while trilling softly. From Godzilla to sleeping beauty in a half hour

And that, folks, is why we have a chicken in the house for part of the day. Pure entertainment and a little bit of love

Well, transformers holds up better than GI Joe, which holds up better than he-man, and that was the holy trinity back then.

But, the older cartoons held up better than any of those. The old Hanna Barberra, Warner brothers, and Disney stuff works as well on average as it did then. They were awesome back in the eighties, and they’re still awesome.

Take tgis as you will, since I block the image and video based C/s from this instance (I’m not against them, just don’t want them in my feed, and don’t have a use for them).

But, I think that those kind of C/s should have some kind of tag system that’s instance wide to make for easier filtering for the folks that do have a use for nudes and porn. Like, the obvious tags would be like M/F/TM/TF for the most common gender and genital type combos. Then have a few for the bigger kinks, like BDSM/BOND/EXTREME/CNC, or whatever would be useful over time. Those are just examples off the top of my head, not any kind of “these must be there, like that” type of thing.

Tags make any image and video community easier to navigate via apps that have such ability to filter, and afaik, searches can find them when they’re in [brackets]. So filtering in and out are both possible with the same system of tags.

Doesn’t even matter if C/s opt out of using them, so long as there’s an instance wide standard for formatting and whatever characters are used.

Man, I’ve become rather unfond of porn at all. I’ve gotten to the point that it’s written erotica and fantasy for me. Porn has gotten so ugly so often that it’s all just offputting for me.

That being said, back when I did use porn, it was anal. It’s one of those things that is very rarely on my list of things to do (for my own pleasure, I’ll do it if a partner wants it), but it uses to be arousing because of the implied openness and trust (which, I know, isn’t the case in porn, but that’s the part that makes me willing to do it irl). It’s the idea of “oh, I’ll share everything with you” that’s interesting about it in porn.

Irl, I still get turned on by that idea, but anal itself is not anywhere near as enjoyable as vaginal sex. To the contrary, sometimes it’s distinctly unenjoyable for various reasons.

Good meat/bad meat

And I don’t mean what the meat is, I’m talking about the quality of whatever meat is used.

Float walk along behind them, invisible, while randomly farting, or making farting noises if ghost farts don’t smell.

I wish I could say I “got it” immediately and never got grumpy with people, but I’d be lying.

But I’ve noticed that what you said about trusting your goodness and letting it flow is fairly common. It’s pretty rare to run into someone that’s divergent that’s being mean or has ill intent by default. The more open folks are, the more direct, I find that they’re also more likely to be good as their intent. Which I think is pretty damn cool

Man, that’s super useful information, directly so, and it explains a lot of issues I’ve had communicating with the autism support group that uses the same space as my chronic pain support group.

Now, I’d never thought they didn’t have empathy, because plenty of them expressed it verbally, once something was verbally communicated to them. But it could be difficult to discuss things when emotions were high, and that’s pretty common when timing means they’re coming in as we’re going out, and we’ve got members visibly upset, but only to people that can read emotion visually.

Makes so much sense out of things.

Legit, even if this information only helps this one situation to bridge the gap between a single neurotypical/neurodivergent interaction case, that’s amazing.

Well, if you’re okay with that, that’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with accepting that, or even enjoying it. We all have the right to run our own lives.

If you aren’t okay with that, be aware that it is also okay to renegotiate what is and isn’t part of your duties in the household. It isn’t about leverage, it’s about communication and establishing healthy boundaries. Whether or not you have an outside job, whether or not you’re social, you don’t have to be the housekeeper by default.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have household duties, everyone has a degree of obligation to take part in keeping a household functional. I’m just saying that you have a say in what duties those are, and that it is possible to attempt to negotiate them in a way that’s respectful and polite.

Not every family works well enough to have good communication about such things. And some families really do think that not having outside work means you are essentially a slave to the household. If that’s the case, there’s only so many options. But you do still have some options, if you want to take them. Again, that’s totally your choice, I would not try and convince you that you have to do anything, it’s your life, your family, you get to decide how you interact with them, not anyone else.

That’s a form of pressure.

When someone uses a family bond as leverage, it’s pressure or coercion.

It isn’t necessarily done intentionally, I don’t know your family, So I can’t say anything about that, just that if you can’t feel fully free to refuse, it cant be said that you agreed fully.

If you want advice on how to set boundaries about that kind of thing with family, there are ways to go about it without anyone being able to complain unless they’re willing to be a jerk. But that’s a separate thing, and not at all on topic with your post, so feel fully free to ignore me :)

But, yeah, I get it. It’s always a rough position to be in. Sorry you got stuck with it.

I love dogs. Absurdly so.

And, that’s exactly why you never, ever use any kind of pressure to get someone to take care of your dog/s.

You, being essentially forced to take care of a dog that you don’t have a bond with, that needs unusual attention, and weren’t eager to care for is a sign of the owner of the dog being an absolute idiot.

There’s nothing wrong with not liking animals in your space. Period, no buts. You shouldn’t be put in this position. It’s unfair to you and the dog.

That being said, do your best to make sure the dog gets at least minimum necessary care. You were coerced into it, but the animal didn’t have a choice either. From your comments, it seems like you’re doing more than bare minimum, and that’s awesome. That’s pretty damn solid tbh, I’ve known people that were in your position that just buggered off and left animals without care.

That’s why the dog’s owner is an idiot, btw. You leave an animal that’s your responsibility in the care of someone, you’re rolling the dice on them to begin with. If it’s someone that doesn’t like dogs, and doesn’t want to do it, you better hope like hell they’re decent people (like you).

So, as a dog lover, thank you for coming here to vent and making sure the dog is taken care of anyway. That’s the best thing you could do in this situation. If you need to vent more, and don’t want to deal with public comments, feel free to vent via PM to me. You’re in a lousy situation doing the best you can, and I respect the hell out of that

The “community in general”?

Where was the election held? What was the quorum for an official decision?

Seriously, you’re claiming authority here, so what is that authority?

Edit:

and pulling the “but my wheelchair using friend never corrected me” doesn’t help your cause either.

That’s not what I said. I said people, plural, in a disability group. One that has more than one chair bound member. I also indirectly covered a long history of interaction with disabled people, including chair bound individuals.

You are literally the first person to have brought this up. It has never come up in group meetings, inservices on the job, via online support groups, or from any other sources at all.

From my end of things, you’re making a specious claim to a community, with only a single article as your call to authority.

So, don’t get this twisted here. You jumped into a casual conversation over a single term and then went all dickish because I didn’t immediately comply with your wishes. As far as I’m concerned, even if/when you do back up your call to authority, you’re still an asshole. So, you know, put up or shut up. I’ll wait until you provide that proof of authority before blocking you, since if there actually is a big enough movement within the disabled community to change a term, I’m fine with that. I just don’t accept your claim without more than what you brought to the table.