It’s true that I know most most of advices from this thread. I’m also know that I should to use them, and I try but it’s hard IRL. Sometimes I just break up like today and every answer to me is like getting in contact with some human. Satisfy some social need idk
I understand, sometimes you just need to scream and rant. It is a good thing.
When I get anxiety this hard, I usually take a very long walk until I get exhausted, so I could think for myself instead of hearing my subconscious how awful things are.
After taking a break, you’ll notice that this voice is always emotional, with 0 logic, full of exaggerated negativity, and will try to convince you that “this is how you die today”, which is pretty much bullshit and incredibly unrealistic. For me at least, that voice will always try focus on the worst in people. When I feel alone is pretty much this.
Sometimes I get a crazy though like telling me “you’re done, dead, there is no going back” for something so trivial as remembering I have to take the dog out tomorrow (not now or yesterday, tomorrow). There is no win unless you ignore it and push through. And even if you commit, it’s still fucking hard.
In the ADHD community, a lot of sound advice for building good habits and coping mechanisms overlaps a lot with “just don’t have ADHD” advice because the advice still works, even if it’s significantly harder to pull off with ADHD.
There’s less overlap for depression, but there still is some between sound advice and “just don’t be sad lol”.
I’m sure there’s some overlap in this case for lonliness.
One of the tough things about this stuff is that it is very easy to convince yourself that nobody understands what you’re going through, so when you don’t see immediate results from advice that means they’re just wrong and there’s nothing you can do. The most important piece of advice is to never give up.
All that said, if everyone in this thread is giving bad advice that shows they don’t understand, you’re implying that you do understand. So where’s your advice?
Or did you just comment to discourage people from trying to help and leave OP to suffer?
Or did you just comment to discourage people from trying to help and leave OP to suffer?
Sure dude, both discouraging people from “helping” (lol) and leaving OP to suffer are obviously the same thing. /s
First of all: OP didn’t ask for advice. Second: I’m discouraging people from giving bad advice.
I can relate to OPs suffering. I know is though, and I undestand on my own experience how OP feels. I know that the only solution for it’s like another commenter said: “get used to it”. OP probably knows this too.
With some projection from me, I can assume he’s only trying to rant over this, thats why OP asked said it on this sub. That’s why he hasn’t answered other comments beside hobbies. OP is trying to relate to people this way.
So when people show up full of self-indulgence thinking “OP NEEDS MY ADVICE”, then it’s clear those comments are more for themselves than for OP. So congrats, you’ve given yourselves a pat on the back. If that’s your attitude, you can fuck off.
Yeah, many of these “advices” are as useful as a Chinese fortune cookie. They’re just not applicable. I bet theres another 2 coming with “get a hobby or meet up” dude
ITT: Bunch of assholes telling you “have you tried to NOT having a cold” when your nose is clearly leaking.
If you don’t understand how it feels to be lonely, any advice you give is awful and full of entitlement.
It’s true that I know most most of advices from this thread. I’m also know that I should to use them, and I try but it’s hard IRL. Sometimes I just break up like today and every answer to me is like getting in contact with some human. Satisfy some social need idk
Well here’s another reply from a human. I saw your post, you’re not alone.
I understand, sometimes you just need to scream and rant. It is a good thing.
When I get anxiety this hard, I usually take a very long walk until I get exhausted, so I could think for myself instead of hearing my subconscious how awful things are.
After taking a break, you’ll notice that this voice is always emotional, with 0 logic, full of exaggerated negativity, and will try to convince you that “this is how you die today”, which is pretty much bullshit and incredibly unrealistic. For me at least, that voice will always try focus on the worst in people. When I feel alone is pretty much this.
Sometimes I get a crazy though like telling me “you’re done, dead, there is no going back” for something so trivial as remembering I have to take the dog out tomorrow (not now or yesterday, tomorrow). There is no win unless you ignore it and push through. And even if you commit, it’s still fucking hard.
In the ADHD community, a lot of sound advice for building good habits and coping mechanisms overlaps a lot with “just don’t have ADHD” advice because the advice still works, even if it’s significantly harder to pull off with ADHD.
There’s less overlap for depression, but there still is some between sound advice and “just don’t be sad lol”.
I’m sure there’s some overlap in this case for lonliness.
One of the tough things about this stuff is that it is very easy to convince yourself that nobody understands what you’re going through, so when you don’t see immediate results from advice that means they’re just wrong and there’s nothing you can do. The most important piece of advice is to never give up.
All that said, if everyone in this thread is giving bad advice that shows they don’t understand, you’re implying that you do understand. So where’s your advice?
Or did you just comment to discourage people from trying to help and leave OP to suffer?
Sure dude, both discouraging people from “helping” (lol) and leaving OP to suffer are obviously the same thing. /s
First of all: OP didn’t ask for advice. Second: I’m discouraging people from giving bad advice.
I can relate to OPs suffering. I know is though, and I undestand on my own experience how OP feels. I know that the only solution for it’s like another commenter said: “get used to it”. OP probably knows this too.
With some projection from me, I can assume he’s only trying to rant over this, thats why OP
askedsaid it on this sub. That’s why he hasn’t answered other comments beside hobbies. OP is trying to relate to people this way.So when people show up full of self-indulgence thinking “OP NEEDS MY ADVICE”, then it’s clear those comments are more for themselves than for OP. So congrats, you’ve given yourselves a pat on the back. If that’s your attitude, you can fuck off.
Yeah, many of these “advices” are as useful as a Chinese fortune cookie. They’re just not applicable. I bet theres another 2 coming with “get a hobby or meet up” dude