My sister has hundreds of YouTube videos she used to help her students learn between music lessons. It will be two years soon since she died, I haven’t been able to watch even one.
I like to remember her in my mind, it hurts less than seeing her when she was alive.
Punching down isn’t funny either punch up or yourself.
A female comedian I heard recently told a great joke about dating a trans person. Below is the link to her set. The joke is about 9 mins in but the whole set is worth a listen.
https://youtu.be/_5WTiX4gh7c?si=mnL_hp3MTQ9p6TJD