demonologic

Oh humblebrag, you know you’re pretty 😀 And you so are! I’m not even into guys (for the most part anyhow) but I’ve got functioning frickin eyeballs

I don’t think NSFW content is bad, I feel like in fact having different sections for NSFW posts makes community bigger because it attracts people.

Yeah definitely! Porn / erotica has been a huge factor in the popularity of the whole internet, too. Like you said in your post, currently lemmynsfw is mainly specifically porn; it’s an “easier” format than more conversation-based stuff because Lemmy really doesn’t have critical mass yet and the majority of people just mainly lurk and don’t comment / post (like it is with any social network.) Contrast this to the fact that there’s smutty chat subreddits that have more users than the entirety of Lemmy 😅

I did notice that a lot of people have “sex is dirty” mindset (elsewhere not here) and then they can get pretty rude and underhanded like anything goes because basically they associate sex with something dark and secretive.

Ugh I get what you mean. Weirdly enough it feels like younger folks are a bit more in that mindset than us old farts, like attitudes have gotten more conservative instead of less when it comes to sexuality. Well, at least partially, there’s good things too of course.

But yeah anyhow, could be that your best bet right now could be to try and be active on !chat@lemmynsfw.com (or others like it, I actually don’t know what the options are here for that stuff) like you’ve already done, try to strike up conversations? Might be a bit of a grind but you already managed to “activate” people a bit which is great!

Benefits of being a lesbian 😅

But yeah, lemmynsfw definitely can be a bit of a sausage fest. The Fediverse and Lemmy especially are niche enough that a lot of the users are techy types (like yours truly, heh) which does tend to still bring a gender bias with it.

If you have the spoons for it, you could occasionally post the kind of stuff you’d like to see? It might feel like shouting into the void since yeah, not a lot of women here (probably more gay guys), but every change has to start somewhere, right?

Might have to create and mod communities though, which is a whole 'nother can of worms if posting isn’t restricted

Aw, thank you ❤️ Yeah I’m a big softie, so my ideal orgies are nice soft hugboxes heh

Been a bit of a dry spell for like 3 or 4 years now because of Reasons and Stuff, so frankly just someone to tussle with for a bit would already be pretty nice. But I haven’t had group fun in even longer, and while it’s not exactly a novel fantasy it’s been fun the few times I’ve done it.

It’d be awesome to end up in one of those configurations of people (eg. at a party, usually how those random ones have gone for me) that suddenly devolves into groping and fucking, when everybody’s enough on the same “wavelength” already and then some little thing gives the group a little push 😁 One pair starts some sort of tomfoolery, and suddenly there’s not a dry panty or a flaccid penis in the vicinity and everything goes 😂

Said it somewhere else here earlier, but I’m close enough but not quite a lesbian that I jokingly call myself lesbian-adjacent, because I’m also not at all above eg. giving a dick a bit of a lick (although probably wouldn’t want one like inside inside me, but who the hell knows with me 😅) in that sort of a group play scenario. The dick or the man it’s attached to (wow that sounded sexist 😂) don’t as such excite me, but giving pleasure to someone definitely does. And there’s been other scenarios too that blur the lines, but that’s probably the nature of this.

Welp, bit of a ramble, but yeah. Some sort of totally random group play thing where I feel safe with everyone and we can really have fun with each others’ bodies, I’ll have one of those please 😅

Yeah I gotta chime in here too: you two are freakin’ adorable. Keep on keeping on, love your vibe.

Oh I meant that mindfulness is probably good since it makes you more present, sorry, I can’t write today. The horny is interfering with my language 😀

But yeah I guess men using any sort of sex toys is still a bit, well, maybe not taboo but uncommon at least

Yeah another dude said that vibes didn’t do much for him, so I can imagine it could be a pretty faint feeling. Anything that makes you more “present” when having sex (or doing anything for that matter) is probably going to be a good thing

Feels very different to doing it “manually” doesn’t it?

Nerve endings are nerve endings, right? 🤷 Don’t some of penis-havers’ sex toys vibrate?

But hey if you have a game controller you can go find out right now if it feels good or not, just need a C compiler 😀

I’d die of embarrasment, it’s terrible code.

I just did a couple of searches and found this example of how you can use SDL2 for the rumble, then found this post on SO on how you read button states, and then sort of banged those together until I could control the intensity and also make it “pulse”, but everything’s kind of stupidly done and deserves to be buried in an unmarked grave. And the controller really isn’t a very good vibrator, regardless of code quality 😆

You can do a very simple one with just the stuff in the first link though, if you want to give it a whirl. I started off with just that and then ran it in a loop with watch and a bit of delay to get a pulsing effect

Oh I’d never heard of that, that’s hilarious. The designers had to know what would happen, right?

Heh, and this part at the end was… uh, relevant:

Now, let me confess that this is not the first time that I’ve used a game component to, er, stimulate myself physically. Ever since they invented the whole rumble pack/vibrating technology in controllers, it’s been on my mind, and sometimes in my practice (fellow game girls, you know what I’m talking about). The thing is, though, it’s often frustrating since the vibrations are not nice and steady, but sporadic. Also I found it’s tough to actually play the game and use the controller in nasty ways at the same time.

This is exactly why you need to take control of the controller, girl!

I wrote a bit of C code to turn my old PS4 controller into an improvised vibrator with different modes and everything, because why not. Wasn’t exactly the best vibrator ever, but it was funny (and I’m single so I takes what I can gets 😅)