I’m no deeply educated kink guru, but the concept of fetishes always seemed a bit broad and fuzzy to me. Maybe some people really truly cannot experience sexual pleasure without engaging in their fetish, but for others it’s more of a very strong preference, or even just a space they’re excited about exploring.

Sexuality is fluid and highly contextual. For me, there are elements of my sexuality that have shifted over the years but I still like novelty (“spicing things up” as they say) and (probably due to my religious upbringing) a certain thrill when it feels like one is doing something a little “wrong” or transgressive. Those don’t really lend themselves to set patterns or “fetishes” because if you do anything enough it can feel normal and routine.

For somebody with a lot of enduring shame actually that might even “anchor” a fetish maybe, the ones who like things so transgressive that they will never be normalized in our society. Sex is weird.

Rolling dice

Ah I thought the argument was that there shouldn’t be any natural or social consequences either per the assertion the IWW’s language was ableist

It’s just that the logical conclusion here is that everybody skips work/class/get-togethers/volunteering on days any individual is sick or has problems, and therefore effectively nobody can ever do any work or receive any benefits from any work or community activity of any kind. At some point some things have to start on time, right? From surgeons to airline pilots to garbage collectors to graduate classes to stamp collecting clubs to backyard BBQs, delaying everything until everyone can do everything at the same time just doesnt seem like it would work

Wow, hmmm. I’m someone who makes personal sacrifices in the name of punctuality because I’ve experienced the negative effects of lateness and strive not to externalize those costs to others whenever I can.

I’m going to be thinking about this post for a while because I really want to appreciate and relate to this perspective, because my personal inclinations go: food gets cold and won’t be as good reheated as it was when it was hot the first time. Other people might have woken early or skipped a meal or made other personal sacrifices to be somewhere on time. I see punctuality as a responsibility to my fellow humans. If I say I’ll be somewhere at a certain time, I do my best to do keep my word. So it’s going to take me a while to really process the alternative perspective here.

When it says that the connection failed to the repo mirrors, what is the exact error apt gives?