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In a relationship built on exclusivity, running into your partner having sex with someone else is a shock for everyone: the one who’s cheating, the one who’s being cheated on, and the other one. I’ve been there.

The moment your love life collapses, you don’t wonder if this isn’t the opportunity to spice up your sexual life.

A woman wearing a thin choker, like a lace choker or a thin choker with a small pendant.

I’m not into BDSM, and I don’t link this with the meaning of being collared. I just like the esthetics of this kind of necklace.

For me, it’s not incest if it’s within the same generation (like brother/sister in law) and it’s between consenting adults.

That’s nice to read. I’m glad you’ve found your own way of being in a relationship that works for you.

My partner and I continue to be in an open relationship, and we have no regrets or doubts that it was the right thing for us.

I took the plunge a few months ago. I’m very glad I did.

Of course, from a sexual point of view, there are new things to discover. But the experience goes far beyond that.

I find the sensuality between men very different, whether in the sense of touch or in the way they embrace.

And on a more intellectual level, being with a man challenges the script of the normalized heterosexual sexual relationship. And since you have to reinvent yourself with a guy, it’s an opportunity to do so in your hetero relationships too.

In short, if you’ve got the desire and the opportunity, don’t hesitate!

I’ve been quiet for weeks, for reasons beyond my control. But today I found a slot in my schedule to go to the sauna.

In the steam room, I quickly met someone. In the dim red light, he looked a bit old for my taste, but when I put my hand on his cock… my god… Without bragging, I had enough male partners in my life to say I’m above the curve. But this one was really bigger, and I wanted it inside me.

We started with quite innocent foreplays (in the context of a gay sauna). We wanked each other. He sucked me, and I did my best to return the favor. In a whisper, he asked me what I like, and told me “I’ll fuck you, if you fuck me afterwards”.

We didn’t even took a cabin. He bent me over on a bench in the steam room in front of a couple of strangers. I couldn’t think to anything else than his huge cock in my ass. That was breath taking and painless. I just wanked myself a bit to stay hard to keep my promise.

Then we switch positions and I fucked him. I didn’t last long. It was (litteraly) too hot in the steam room now. My heart was pounding in my chest. I had to leave the room for some fresh air and a cold shower.

I wandered in the facility for a little while longer, but I didn’t feel I could have a 2nd round with him or with an other guy.

So I got dressed and texted my other half to say I was coming home (she knows). I bought a fresh can of diet coke at the reception and left the sauna. Outside, it was raining, it was nice.

I didn’t know there were a /c/stories_gonewild :)

Thank you for sharing your story. Maybe we’re indeed variants from different timelines. Let me tell you more about my timeline.

We’ve been together since the university, 20+ years ago. I fell in love at first sight, l never felt something so strong for someone. We shared and still share lots of things: we’re gamers, nerds, far leftist, cat lovers, we never planned to have kids…

The first years were a firework. But with time, she went through a lot of different stuff which slowly ruined her libido. Nowadays, she has treatments for two medical conditions, each one of them is known to have a negative impact on sexuality (she can’t even enjoy fingering herself alone anymore).

We tried a lot of things, but eventually she just felt bad because she was depriving me of a sexual life and she put a lot of pressure on herself for that. So she suggested we should open our relationship for me. And for a long time, I didn’t want to have sex with anyone else, because I believed true love means monogamy.

But she was still very insecure because of our lack of sexual life, so I searched for a solution which would not endanger our couple. And so I discovered that gay saunas exist.

It’s a good solution for me. I have sex at will, so she doesn’t put anymore pressure on herself for that. I can explore an other side of my sexuality, and make some fantasies come true. There’s no risk that I fall in love with someone else.

We established simple rules: I don’t date people outside of the sauna. I tell her when I go there (so she knows my phone is off). I limit the risks of STD. No sex with someone we know. No shame, I can tell her what I did when I come back home. We can freely speak about this deal, and stop it if one of us start to feel unconformable about it.

The second time I went to a sauna, our whatsapp was litteraly like :

• Finished! Getting dressed in the locker room!
• ok! :) Could you buy some bread on your way back home?

That’s so simple. I love her.

I’ve discovered a new serenity (I’m no longer afraid of lack), in a context that corresponds to my ethics (no one exploits anyone for that).

It also unblocked something in my relationship. My partner is no longer worried that I’m frustrated by her lack of libido. She knows that she has all the time she needs to make it come back, without pressure, without fear that it might one day be a reason for breaking up.

What I’ve learned specifically about sex. First of all, I’ve always loved being sucked (by a girl, until recently) for the physical feelings. I realized that I was also projecting myself in her place. Besides, I never thought a glans could be so soft on the lips.

I also discovered how unpleasant it is to have your head pressed down while you’re sucking (I never did that before). You’re there, making your best to give pleasure to your partner, and they are obviously more interested in seeing you puke.

I also understood the letting go and the trust it needs to be penetrated. When you’re on your knees, with someone in your back, you feel so vulnerable.

As a feminist ally, it’s an incredible (and still very incomplete) experience to live.

Edit: about DoxyPEP, this treatment is not allowed yet for STD prevention in my country. Right now, my doctor is already making an exception for me, as she prescribed a not authorized dosage for PrEP.

I keep exploring my bisexuality in gay saunas.

The last time, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and to go to a facility I never went to. But the magic didn’t work.

Too big and too busy, it felt like an indoor public pool. Too much mirror walls (I’m very nearsighted, it’s not convenient). A questionable policy about condom distribution…

Nevertheless, I decided to give a chance to the place, and I had some oral fun with a guy. Usually, I have 3 or 4 partners in row but this time, all I wanted after that was a piece of cake and a cup of tea. I found a bakery on my way back home.

Also, I did my coming out to my doctor this morning to talk about STD prevention and vaccines (papillomavirus, hepatitis). She had me tested (I’m clean), and she offered to prescribe PrEP without my having to ask.

Everything was perfect: it was a summer afternoon, we were in my room. She was lovely, with nice curves, chestnut eyes and an adorable smile. There was some music playing in the background, probably U2 or the Beatles.

And I lasted approximately 3 seconds. Maybe less.