You can get good media, or you can get mass-appeal media.
Sometimes they cross over, usually not. Unfortunately, a -lot- of horny men really like the (especially self-insert isekai) horny stuff. And they pay a lot for it, especially merchandise. So so much money in anime merch, especially horny anime merch. It’s so profitable there’s an anime merch store at my local rural mall in Wisconsin, and it’s full of super questionable hentai-adjacent stuff.
There’s a lot of good stuff out there that isn’t that, but it is definitely an actual slog to find any of it because there’s way more low quality samey horny junk.
Same boat, but executed the sterilization much earlier (2014 or so when they were starting to really push the TRAPP laws). Saw the writing on the wall and want nothing to do with any of it.