We’ve been married for 2 years and been together for 4. We have a healthy sexual relationship although after the arrival of our kid we don’t have sex that much. The thing is that I want her to be more of a hotwife. To give you an example of my “dream” :

I would like it if we go for vacations and we stay in an adult only hotel where she would have the freedom to flirt with whoever she likes and she can have sex or just flirt with him for as long as we are there.

Do you have any advice on how to approach this? Should I just keep fantasizing about her with others or I should talk to her?

Thank you in advance

  • LookingForButtsAndSuch@lemmynsfw.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    edit-2
    6 months ago

    Not really in a comparable position, but I‘d like to give my two cents on the topic anyway.

    My wife and me have been together for about ten years now and open communication always seemed like an integral piece of what made this relationship work. Talking to your partner about what you want, or what you are into, will at least get you on the same page and prevent something slowly cooking up, to blow of the lit later down the line.

    On the specific topic, you should know best what to expect from your wife. But maybe you bolster up for an unexpected result. Maybe she’s more into the idea than you expect, and that might hit your ego in an unexpected way. Talking it through is still the best way to go about it, I just like to have several game plans laid out before I tackle potentially difficult topics. Helps me lot in building up the required confidence, even if my wife has the tendency not to fall into any of my preplaned scenarios at all…